Sunday, December 3, 2017

A Momentary Lapse of Reason

It all started when I saw this photo of Anna, of Anna's Island Style, wearing this pair of pants she found at Zara (not linking because I don't love)


Before I tell the rest of this story, I need to give you a bit of background about me and pants.  I used to wear nothing but skinny black pants in my 20's and 30's.  I started wearing more skirts and dresses in my 40's but still liked to wear a great-fitting pair of pants.  Unfortunately, my waist is disproportionately larger than my mostly non-existent hips and butt, which makes finding pants that fit in both places almost impossible.   A significant weight gain over the past couple of years means that skinny pants don't look so good anymore, so I've gravitated towards higher-waisted wide leg ones.   I am always looking for stylish pants, (which oddly enough, are not so easily found in thrift stores)  that don't cost a fortune. 

When I saw the corduroy wide-leg cropped pants that Anna was wearing on her blog, I was excited until I saw that she had purchased them at Zara.   I haven't purchased anything new from a fast fashion retailer for several years.  The merchandise is poor quality, made by people who work in dangerous conditions for very little pay, and I prefer not to support an industry making items that end up in landfill by the following season.

Corduroy, high-waisted, wide leg pants from Zara

But did that stop me from becoming obsessed with these pants?  Noooooooo.  I looked at Zara's website for more details and I had to admit, they looked great on the model (as they always do), and they ticked all the boxes - corduroy (cozy), high-waisted (no muffin top), wide-legs (my favourite).  It was ridiculous to think I would go against my principles just for a pair of pants, but the more I obsessed about them (they came in several colours! ) and reminded myself about how hard it is for me to find cool pants, the more I convinced myself that there couldn't be any harm in just trying them on...

So I found myself in Zara.  There were no staff in sight, so I wandered through the racks and displays, looking for those damn pants.  I saw lots of oversized sweatshirts embellished with faux fur, fake pearls and fringe, and a lot of short skirts, but no corduroy pants.   Finally, after searching the entire store, I asked the woman guarding the fitting rooms if they had them and of course, the answer was no.   There had been a couple of similar styles I'd seen on the website that I liked, but they didn't have those either.  In fact, NOTHING I liked on the website was in stock.  ("we've been really slow in getting stock...")

To justify what was a major waste of time I decided to try some of their other pants, and a few sweatshirt style tops.  This is where it got ugly.  The pants, all size LARGE, were way too small, and the oversize sweatshirts were so oversized that they looked like shapeless sacks. The fabrics felt cheap, and everything looked like crap on me.  I felt fat and old. These are bad feelings to have when trying on clothes, and I realized that this what many women go through every time they go shopping.  I left as quickly as possible, and found myself doing what women have done time and time again when they've had a depressing shopping experience.  I went to the Lindt store (linking because I do love) and bought chocolate.   

I thought about how I feel when I go thrift shopping, and how that shopping experience is different from the one I had in Zara.   I rarely go into a Goodwill or a Talize searching for a specific item, but instead, I'm excited by the possibility of what I might find.  There are always things I like that are too small, but chances are, there will always be that one awesome thing that does fit.  And it costs $10.  And I don't feel old and fat, I just feel like me.  


 

Feeling good about myself, wearing thrifted velvet pants from a neighbourhood consignment store, and one of my favourite finds from my visit to Talize with Suzanne in early November, a never-worn Winnie The Pooh hoodie.

17 comments:

  1. Yes! Yes! Yes! Brilliant post!

    Even though I don't thrift shop as much as I used to {you know...sewing}; every time I do go, I feel enormous optimism and I'm never disappointed.

    'And I don't feel old and fat, I just feel like me.' Says it all for me too!

    Cute kitty in window. Cute kitty on doorstep...in fact that kitty may be a relative of Patti's kitty.

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  3. I'm sad that your foray into Zara made you feel anything less than the gorgeous woman you are. They're a Spanish company and, in my experience, Spanish women are usually on the smaller side - fine for titchy people like me but not so good for enviously tall women like you.
    I don't bother with conventional shops, they're boring, contain racks and racks of the same old mass manufactured tat and I always get followed round my security guards 'cos it's assumed I'm foreign and therefore a criminal.
    Charity shops are much more fun, you never know what you're going to find, sometimes nothing, sometimes absolute treasure and it's always affordable so you don't have to agonise about the usefulness of it for long.
    Love that last picture of you in your velvet trousers and Sylvester photobombing through the window! xxxx

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  4. You are sooo right! I never go into stores for all the reasons you've stated - every one of them. And just think, as your sewing comes along you can just make whatever you want, however you want. Now that's pure pleasure!

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    1. I don't know that I will ever be a skilled enough at sewing to make a pair of pants, but I shall remain optimistic!

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  5. Love your forays and stories. You look wonderful. When you come back to Vancouver, come with Mel to My Sister's Closet or maybe we can all go out for a day.

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    1. Sounds like a great idea - I will let you know the next time I plan to visit Vancouver.

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    2. I will try to make it over! I want to hang with you and Mel!

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  6. We spent a lot of money in a Zara store 20 years ago. Every item looked horrible after being washed. Never set foot in a Zara since.

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  7. Love your velvet pants and Pooh hoodie! Personally I haven’t even been tempted to enter a dress shop in forever. Don’t want what they’re selling. Nope. My “handmade custom couture” is just so much better! I can, however, go just a leetle overboard in a fabric shop. Heh.

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  8. I drool over some of those Zara styles, but I won't buy them and I can't imagine ever seeing someone in Vancouver wearing my faves. Which begs the question: where do they go!? I've only been in Zara twice in 55 years. Hahaha. I prefer the lovingly cared-for cast-offs of others. Quality that keeps on giving. LOVE those velvet trousers!!! And Anna does look smashing! Time to rev up that sewing machine.

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  9. I have never been in Zara so I am clueless as to what they offer.
    I have a love/hate relationship with pants. I have less than 10 pairs in my closet. Retail or thrift, I am VERY picky.
    I totally agree with Vix - retail is boring, mass produced, blahness.

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  10. I have never been in a Zara, but I see their stuff in thrift stores all the time, and yes! it's always crap! Horrible quality. Although once in a rare while I find something really good, so I guess those are out there.

    I hate looking at retail now, it's just a sea of blah. You have to let me know next time you come out to the west coast! I want to meet you! Let's have adventures! Also - KITTY in the window.

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    1. I will definitely contact you when I know I'm coming out there - I want to meet you too! Yes, that is my handsome boy in the window.

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  11. Dude, that stressed me out just reading it!!!! U look adorable in the pants there that u did get!!

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  12. I agree totally with you, it's so sad that so many women have those feelings when trying to buy clothes, and it's even worse because they're all of them fabulous and deserve to dress up fabulously!
    So lovely to see you in those pants, I love velvet, love that rich texture, love the cool shape, and love your cute hoodie!
    Actually, I'm a spanish women who has never bought a cloth in Zara (as any women up a 42 EU size). They have never had my size anyway (even when I was a younger and thinner girl, they sizes were impossible!), and they rarely have something which appeals me!. So I always thought that they didn't want my money!
    Lovely to see you rocking!
    besos

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